Children want to know their parents care about them long after they’ve left the nest. Are you hurting your adult children in any of these ways?
You don’t call them
You may be thinking it’s the child’s duty to call you. That’s nice if they do, but many are hoping you will make that call. Once you stop calling a child, that habit is formed. It becomes easy to simply go about your own life and think it’s best if you just let them live theirs without interrupting with calls. Or maybe you are too busy. Wait — this is your child! You don’t need to call every day, and maybe not even every week. But surely once a month would be the longest to go without letting your children know you are thinking of them. They need a call. They need to hear your voice and know you are thinking about them.
You don’t seem to care what’s going on in their lives
If you don’t ask, they may get the idea that you don’t care about what’s happening to them. You don’t need to know every single detail, but you ought to know what they are doing for a job, for fun and what they are doing with their own children, if they have any. Ask questions like, “What do you enjoy about your job?”, “What’s happening with the kids?”, “How is your wife/husband doing?”, “What have you done lately that was fun?”, “How is your health?” Be interested in what’s going on in their lives, without prying for details that may be private. Care enough to ask.