Worrying about what other people think about you can easily get your mind wandering to dark places. Doing so can trigger feelings of self-doubt, anxiety, and insecurity. So to avoid potential embarrassment, you hide who you truly are.
Act on What Will Serve You Long-Term
Judgment from others can hurt. But not as much as the pain of missing an opportunity due to fear of getting a negative reaction. Same as when walking up to an attractive person at a party – you face instant rejection but also missing out on meeting the love of your life if you don’t act.
Negative comments from others affect you instantly, but regret over missed opportunities is something that festers and grows over time. Be willing to take short-term rejections in exchange for what will serve you long-term.
Stop Judging Yourself
We have an ability to think others judge us based on what we judge ourselves for. Just pause for a second and think about it. What you’re afraid others will judge you for is really what you judge yourself for, isn’t it?
So, who’s judgment are we really talking about here? That’s right, your own.
We’re so aware of what we find awkward about ourselves that we tend to look for reactions in others to confirm our beliefs. When we stop judging ourselves and accept whatever that is making us feel insecure, we have no need to fear judgments from others.
Realize That It’s Not About You
People’s negative reactions are about their experiences, wounds, and perspectives. It’s about their own fears and limitations. It has nothing to do with you – nothing.
Quite a relieving thought isn’t it?